Session 4: Retain Your Reward
The next step in breaking through is identifying your highest payoff and reward.
Congratulations on completing Phase 1 of your personally tailored BreakThroughSystemTM, which means you’re well on your way to breaking through your barriers and being more effective. (Click or tap here if you haven’t completed the first phase of your BreakThrough SystemTM.)
Fear is the main cause of inaction and ineffectiveness (and also procrastination), so the importance of redefining your fear of failure is to allow yourself to make mistakes and keep moving forward.
Being effective comes from ‘failing forward’, not stopping in your tracks because ‘I have a fear of failure’.
As John C. Maxwell reminded us, procrastination is a too high price to pay for the fear of failure.
Now you’re now ready to continue building your tailored, 4-step BreakThrough SystemTM.
So let’s get straight to Phase 2.
BreakThrough SystemTM Phase 2:
Retain Your Reward
The second step in creating your BreakThrough SystemTM is to retain your reward.
If you identify as a Day Dreamer, not seeing the value or purpose in what you’re doing is probably a major cause of distraction for you.
But even if you identify with another BreakThrough Persona type (Habitual Hesitator, Impulsive Investor, Sensitive Soul), you will still resonate with how a lack of purpose can derail your plans and limit your effectiveness.
Everyone does something for a payoff, which is usually your reason or purpose for doing something.
In our job, money is the obvious payoff, but there are other ways we get ‘paid’ for doing what we do.
Being valued and respected, being made to feel equal and welcomed, are also ways we get ‘paid’ from our place of employment.
In our relationships too, we expect to get paid with honesty, friendship, and loyalty.
But what happens when the payoff doesn’t meet your expectations? What happens when the only reason you’re in the job is because of the money? What happens when the stress of your job or relationship isn’t worth it anymore?
You become frustrated and demotivated and stop doing what you know you should be doing. You become ineffective.
Brian Tracy, motivational speaker and author of the bestselling book, Eat That Frog!, says that work will never end—there will always be something to do.
Therefore, the best way to stay focussed and work toward your maximum effectiveness is to identify what motivates you to get things done. To identify your payoff or reward.
And the best question to identify your payoff (what I call, ‘Retaining Your Reward’), is to ask yourself this question put forward by Brian Tracy:
“What are my highest value activities?”
Your ‘highest value activities’ are the most rewarding activities where you get most bang for your buck. If you were to evaluate them using the 80:20 rule, these activities would be the 20% activities that account for 80% of your joy, wellbeing, fulfillment, and sense of belonging—the activities that generate your highest payoff or reward.
Lower value activities fall into the 80% of activities that only generate 20% or less of your payoff or reward. These activities you are allowed to put to the side and give minimal attention to, or what Brian Tracy dubs ‘positive procrastination’.
So, your task for this session is to identify your Top 3 ‘high-value activities’ that generate 80% of your payoff or reward in life.
To help you with this task, consider these 7 Life Segments
- Family & Relationships
- Career & Work
- Money & Finances
- Health & Wellbeing
- Learning & Education
- Fun & Adventure
- Spirituality & Ethics (or morals)
On a scale of 0 – 10 (0 is lowest, and 10 is highest), rate each of the 7 Life Segments as to how much value or worth you put on them at this current moment in your life.
For example, you might rate Family & Relationships high (8-10) and Spirituality & Ethics low (1-3), or vice versa.
Then list the segments of highest priority from 1 to 7 (1 is the most important, and 7 is the least important).
The top 2 Life Segments are the segments that will currently give your biggest payoff and reward and where you should, for now, concentrate 80% of your efforts and attention.
Once you’ve identified your top 2 Life Segments, you are now ready to complete Phase 2 of your personally tailored BreakThrough SystemTM: Retain Your Reward.
Phase 2 of Your Personally Tailored
Task: Write Down How You Will Reward Yourself