Session 5: Refine Your Values
The next step in breaking through is to refine and honour your values.
Congratulations on completing Phase 2 of your personally tailored BreakThrough SystemTM, which means you’re more than halfway to breaking through your barriers. (Click or tap here if you haven’t completed the Phase 1 or 2 of your BreakThrough SystemTM.)
As we discussed in the previous session, everyone does something for a payoff, which is usually your reason or purpose for doing something.
But when the payoff doesn’t meet your expectations, you become frustrated and demotivated and stop doing what you know you should be doing. You become ineffective!
In Phase 2, your task was to identify your ‘highest value activities’, the most rewarding Life Segments where you get most bang for your buck.
When you get rewarded for what you do, you get motivated to keep doing it.
But getting the payoff is only part of the solution. The focus of your thoughts also determines how successful you are at breaking through your barriers.
Therefore, to be more effective, you also need to refine how you think.
In this session, your task is therefore to analyse the core values you hold—and why these values either propel you forward or hold you back.
So let’s get straight to Phase 3.
BreakThrough SystemTM Phase 3:
Refine Your Values
The third step in creating your BreakThrough SystemTM is to refine your values.
If you identify as an Impulsive Investor, becoming overwhelmed with work and feeling powerless is probably a major barrier for you.
But even if you identify with another BreakThrough Persona (Habitual Hesitator, Day Dreamer, Sensitive Soul), you will still resonate with how a lack of values can cause you to react unconsciously to situations without due consideration, which can limit your effectiveness.
Part of the process of breaking through your barriers, therefore, is to bypass your natural instincts.
You do this by identifying the higher principles by which you want to live and by honouring those values through your actions and behaviour.
You can then start responding with reason and definiteness of purpose instead of reacting on instinct, giving you the impetus to move in the direction that’s right for you.
As Einstein once said:
“The ideals which have always shone before me and filled me with the joy of living are goodness, beauty, and truth.”
Your values are the standards to which you hold yourself accountable, a collection of guiding principles that you deem essential to live by, such as honesty, liberty, equality, and love.
Your task in this session is to identify your top 3 values or principles by which you want to live by and hold yourself to account.
Most, if not all, community and personal values fall within these 7 Life Segments:
- Family & Relationships: e.g. acceptance, patience, loyalty, communication
- Career & Work e.g. achievement, productivity, teamwork, reputation
- Money & Finances e.g. autonomy, power, security, wealth
- Health & Wellbeing e.g. self-respect, peace, harmony, humour
- Learning & Education e.g. knowledge, truth, wisdom, innovation
- Fun & Adventure e.g. creativity, leisure, nature, freedom
- Spirituality & Ethics (or morals) e.g. beauty, religion, honesty, diversity
There are many more values than the ones just listed, and your task now is to identify and list one community value and one personal value that you hold as the highest principle by which you want to live in each of the 7 Life Segments.
Of these 14 values and principles, rank them in order of importance from 1 – 14 (1 is most important, 14 is least important).
Then, of the top 3 values in your list, determine whether there are ways you can better align your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours with these principles.
The more aligned you are with your values, the less anxiety, worry and stress you will feel, and the more happiness and wellbeing you will experience.
The more effective you will be.
Phase 3 of Your Personally Tailored
Task: Write Down How You Will Honour Your Top 3 Values